5/5/2013
Here’s the thing. Men in our culture have been socialized to believe that their opinions on women’s appearance matter a lot. Not all men buy into this, of course, but many do. Some seem incapable of entertaining the notion that not everything women do with their appearance is for men to look at. This is why men’s response to women discussing stifling beauty norms is so often something like “But I actually like small boobs!” and “But I actually like my women on the heavier side, if you know what I mean!” They don’t realize that their individual opinion on women’s appearance doesn’t matter in this context, and that while it might be reassuring for some women to know that there are indeed men who find them fuckable, that’s not the point of the discussion.

Women, too, have been socialized to believe that the ultimate arbiters of their appearance are men, that anything they do with their appearance is or should be “for men.” That’s why women’s magazines trip over themselves to offer up advice on “what he wants to see you wearing” and “what men think of these current fashion trends” and “wow him with these new hairstyles.” While women can and do judge each other’s appearance harshly, many of us grew up being told by mothers, sisters, and female strangers that we’ll never “get a man” or “keep a man” unless we do X or lose some fat from Y, unless we moisturize//trim/shave/push up/hide/show/”flatter”/paint/dye/exfoliate/pierce/surgically alter this or that.

That’s also why when a woman wears revealing clothes, it’s okay, in our society, to assume that she’s “looking for attention” or that she’s a slut and wants to sleep with a bunch of guys. Because why else would a woman wear revealing clothes if not for the benefit of men and to communicate her sexual availability to them, right? It can’t possibly have anything to do with the fact that it’s hot out or it’s more comfortable or she likes how she looks in it or everything else is in the laundry or she wants to get a tan or maybe she likes women and wants attention from them, not from men?

The result of all this is that many men, even kind and well-meaning men, believe, however subconsciously, that women’s bodies are for them. They are for them to look at, for them to pass judgment on, for them to bless with a compliment if they deign to do so. They are not for women to enjoy, take pride in, love, accept, explore, show off, or hide as they please. They are for men and their pleasure.
— Why You Shouldn’t Tell That Random Girl On The Street That She’s Hot » Brute Reason  (via albinwonderland)

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1/5/2013
Not feminism: Oh my God, that woman is wearing make-up and high heels! She can't be a feminist. She's just adhering to the patriarchal expectations of femininity! What a traitor to her gender.
Not feminism: I hate men! Women are so much better than men! All men are rapists and we don't need their help! Men are just there to oppress us and keep us down! Women are the superior gender.
Not feminism: You're giving up your career to have a baby? You're being dictated to by a man! That's the wrong choice! You've slept with twenty men? Wow, way to show that you have no respect for yourself.
Feminism: Women and men are equal. No-one should be discriminated against on the basis of their gender. Women have the right to decide how to live their life, how to dress, what to do with their body and who to love.
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17/2/2013
pretty-lolita-confessions: “I love this hobby. But God, why is slut-shaming still a thing here?! It disgusts me every time I see someone posting about how “we’re better than xyz fashion group because we show less skin.” ENOUGH.” pretty-lolita-confessions.tumblr.com

pretty-lolita-confessions:

“I love this hobby. But God, why is slut-shaming still a thing here?! It disgusts me every time I see someone posting about how “we’re better than xyz fashion group because we show less skin.” ENOUGH.”

pretty-lolita-confessions.tumblr.com

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15/2/2013
marvelentertainment:   MARVEL PANEL OF THE DAY From: Defenders (1972) #4 You win at everything, Valkyrie. (Source: marvel.com) GPOY.

marvelentertainment:

  MARVEL PANEL OF THE DAY

From: Defenders (1972) #4

You win at everything, Valkyrie.

(Source: marvel.com)

GPOY.

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8/11/2012

xdievromanticx:

transhumanisticpanspermia:

I had this argument a few days ago. It was quite the success.

Someone came back and commented with a completely useless comment, so I just had to take the opportunity to take the moral low ground and sass them out.

Quitting when you’re on top is for people who don’t like to have fun.

Also, if I’m going to leave the other people un-anonymous, I’m staying that way too. It’s only fair. Half of you already know my last name anyway.

I want to hug you! ^.^

(Source: , via guidedbythewind)

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1/11/2012

oscarstardis:

needlesslydefiantwithtea:

numberkind:

itswallie:

 #that took me a second to get #this is a very involved joke

That is a win.

took me about a minute to get it

this was like a meta joke or something

this is a whole new level of joke

(Source: awesome-, via lastingporcelain)

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20/9/2012

STFU, Conservatives: Sexism against women is more personal than "sexism against men."

iamabutchsolo:

thatisnotfeminism:

A study by Swim et al had male and female students keep a diary of sexist encounters. They found that women experienced more every day prejudices and instances of discrimination, about one to two instances per week, “consisting of traditional…

(Source: )

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